Ace Day

History and General Information

On May 8, 2015 The Asexuality Blog and the Ace Community began a movement where they posted photos and graphics of Ace cards to correspond with their orientations. The event was wildly successful across social media and even extended to a few physical displays globally.  

The delegations from the original post were as follows:

  • Ace of Hearts: Alloromantic Asexual - experiences romantic attraction regularly toward one or more genders. This includes orientations such as heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, polyromantic, and panromantic.
  • Ace of Spades: Aromantic Asexual - does not experience romantic attraction toward any gender.
  • Ace of Diamonds: Demiromantic/Demisexual & Grey-aromantic/Grey-Asexual- Experiences romantic and/or sexual attraction only if a strong emotional bond is established. OR Experiences romantic/sexual attraction rarely, not strongly enough to act on, only under specific circumstances, or fluctuates between periods of experiencing attraction and not experiencing it. Orientations such as Demiromantic, Demisexual, Grey-Aromantic, Grey-Asexual, Cupioromantic, Cupiosexual, Lithromantic, Lithsexual, Aroflux, Aceflux, Quoiromantic.
  • Ace of Clubs: Questioning/Unsure of Orientation/No Orientation - Aware they fall on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum, but not sure where or do not identify with any romantic orientation.

Multiple cards may be used to represent identities.


Attempts were made to add this event to Wikipedia, but were unsuccessful due to lack of organization and evidence for validity. 

After the backlash from several communities regarding ace day, a statement was released on June 14, 2015 to address these concerns and apologize for the harm caused with promises to work harder with future events to ensure relevant concerns were noted ahead of time.


In September, 2015 a Feedback Form was released to allow community members to anonymously provide their viewpoints on Ace Day. This information was taken into account along to further prepare for the revised event which had already been in the planning stages for close to two months. On September 14, the new event was announced via The Asexuality Blog's Tumblr . The new date, scheduled for November 26, 2015 would coincide with International Cake Day and would do away with the problematic features of the original date. This new date and system is intended to be the basis of the annually occurring Ace Day events.


The guidelines for this revised event are as follows:

  • The original method of classification via the 4 ace cards was removed. Instead, participants are encouraged to pick any ace card they wish, whether it be traditional suits, tarot, or otherwise and include a short statement explaining the significance of their choice
  • In addition to the ace card, participants are asked to include a personal message, story, artwork, etc to express their orientation(s). Emphasis on intersectionality is highly encouraged. This is an opportunity to highlight gender, race, religion, disabilities, and other communities that intersect with asexuality!
  • For those who will be offline due to Thanksgiving in the US that day, the option to queue posts on their own blog was suggested, as well as submitting to The Asexuality Blog for posting, or submitting to theacedayposts blog. 
  • The acedayposts blog will also be reblogging various posts on the day of the event.
  • Various social media platforms will be included moreso this time around. Further attempts to get  trending on Twitter will be made and more focus on Facebook and Instagram is also planned.
  • The official tag/hashtag across all platforms will be #AceDay
  • A series of Google Hangouts (some on-air) will be available to connect with each other on the day of the event as well. 

Statement

STATEMENT - JUNE 14, 2015

I’d like to take a moment to address a few things regarding Ace Day that I’ve seen discussed over the past couple of months. Forgive the delay, as I had planned to post this sooner, but I wanted to put thought into my words and not rush through. I haven’t had a free moment to collect myself and my thoughts until now.

Allow me to begin by stating that this is not my forum to make excuses. I could go on and on about the influences behind my actions at the start of Ace Day’s planning, but I’ve said all of that before, and it doesn’t bear repeating. The fact of the matter is that there were problems with the event itself and my handling of it and it is that which I need to address.

It is my understanding from what I’ve read, that the biggest complaints about Ace Day were the timing in which it occurred and the format which promoted use of playing cards. There are many who felt that it was too close to Trans Day of Visibility and Blackout, and that it sought to capitalize on the success of those movements while also feeling that the name that was (mistakenly, on my part) presented as the title was a direct imitation as well. These criticisms are valid. In my haste to accommodate the wishes of my followers, I did not think through the repercussions of everything and unintentionally caused harm to others. When polling the community for another date in an attempt to correct these issues, I did not adequately address the complaints, harm was done and that should have been better acknowledged.

I also feel I should address the fact that I poorly responded to criticism. As I have had discussions with other community members, I have been made to realize that these criticisms were not an attempt to limit when asexuals should exhibit pride, but a calling-out of encroaching on other events. My response largely originated out of a lack of understanding of the issues at hand, and as such I am actively working to better educate myself.

As for the playing cards, it was a suggestion made to me into which I should have placed more thought. I did not consider that the use of the cards could result in alienating members of the community who do not identify with a romantic orientation or whose orientation is more complex than the choices available. This again arose from my ignorance of many aspects of the community I am working to serve, and I am working on educating myself on these issues as well.

For all of these transgressions, I am genuinely sorry.

At its core, the event itself was only ever intended to be something to bring the ace community together and exhibit pride for a group of people who are so often invisible and ignored. It was never intended to overshadow others or to turn a profit. However, intentions are not excuses, and this event was not planned out the way it should have been and as such caused harm both inside and out of the ace community, and it is for that which I must apologize. In the past, I’ve attempted to defend the event and my actions around it, and while I stand behind the intentions, the impact cannot be ignored. This message is not about self-defense; it’s an attempt to make amends.

It is my sincere hope that this be my first step toward being a better servant for the ace community. Moving forward, I make the promise to slow down and make a better effort to think through all courses of action to ensure that situations like these do not happen again so that I may better serve aces of all walks of life, including trans people, people of color, and those who do not identify with a romantic label, or whose romantic identities do not fit into neat boxes. I will further make the effort to connect with communities who may be impacted by my actions and involve them in the planning of any future events as well as listen carefully and respond to criticism offered, taking into consideration where it is coming from and working with those who can help solve the issues addressed.

Announcements

Ace Day Is Getting Its Own Social Media!

September 17, 2015

The Facebook page for Ace Day is operational at this point and I will be setting up a Twitter account as well. There is already a Tumblr blog available - acedayposts - so Ace Day is expanding across social media! 

Got a platform you want to see Ace Day on? Send an e-mail to: sara@theasexualityblog.com to suggest!

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Ace Day Revised/Cake Day

September 14, 2015

After reading through all of the wonderful feedback on Ace Day and doing a bit more research, I am happy to announce that the Revised Ace Day will take place on November 26, 2015, which is also International Cake Day (which seems appropriate for the ace community).

It is my hope that this date will be the set-in-stone date for the annual event. I have searched through Tumblr and Google and I see no other communities that have events planned for this day outside of Thanksgiving in the US, and I have a plan to accommodate those participants who will be offline that day.

I’m sure that this second attempt will still have a few kinks to work out, but I’m hoping that it’s significantly smoother than the one in May was. I’m releasing this announcement now so as to have plenty of time for everyone to see it and plan to participate if they wish. 

So, here’s the plan:

  • The original method of classification via the 4 ace cards is gone. Instead, participants may pick any ace card they wish, whether it be traditional suits, tarot, or otherwise. It’s completely up to you, so make it your own as an expression of yourself! Pick your own ace card and tell us why it’s special to you!
  • In addition to your ace card, include a personal message, story, artwork, or whatever you want to express in reference to your orientation(s). Show the world who you are as an ace!! Emphasis on intersectionality is highly encouraged. This is an opportunity to highlight gender, race, religion, disabilities, and other communities that intersect with asexuality!
  • For those who will be offline due to Thanksgiving in the US that day, feel free to either queue your posts on your own blog, submit them to me for posting, or submit them to theacedayposts blog. 
  • The acedayposts blog will also be reblogging various posts on the day of the event if you’d like to follow it and see what’s going on. 
  • Various social media platforms will be included moreso this time around. We’ll make another attempt at trending on Twitter and have even more focus on Facebook and Instagram!
  • The official tag/hashtag across all platforms will be #AceDay
  • A series of Google Hangouts (some on-air) will be available to connect with each other on the day of the event as well. 
  • All orientations on the Asexual Spectrum are welcome to participate!

Let me know if you have questions! I’m really looking forward to this event being all-around better than the first one was and if there is anything I can do to help that happen, I’m all for it!